從一段無性婚姻中脱身的最好的時機是何時？_風聞

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My partner and I (her: 35F, me: 39M) have been together for 3 years and have an 18 month old daughter who we both love dearly. Unfortunately we have been in a completely sexless relationship since midway through her pregnancy, almost 2 years now.

我和我的伴侶(她: 35F，我: 39M)已經在一起3年了，有一個18個月大的女兒，我們都非常愛她。 不幸的是，自從她懷孕中期以來，我們一直處於一段完全沒有性的關係中，到現在差不多兩年了。

I’ve tried my best up until this point to be patient and understanding as giving birth, looking after a baby, and breastfeeding can be extremely exhausting. Our daughter is healthy and there weren’t any usual complications.

在此之前，我已經盡了最大的努力來保持耐心和理解，比如生孩子、照顧嬰兒和母乳餵養會讓人精疲力盡。我們的女兒很健康，沒有出現任何常見的併發症。

I feel like l am made to feel guilty whenever I bring up my desire for intimacy. I try to bring it up gently but she always says I’m just being needy and insecure and to stop pressuring her. She says she has no interest in physical intimacy of any kind. It doesn’t help that she has insisted on co-sleeping with our daughter since birth and plans to continue the process until some unspecified future time. So there is literally zero time when we can be in bed together alone. We live far away from family so getting help from them isn’t really an option.

每當我出現想要親熱的念頭時，我就會感到內疚。我試着温柔地提起這件事，但她總是説我只是性飢渴，沒有安全感，不要再給她壓力了。她説她對任何形式的身體接觸都不感興趣。自從我們的女兒出生以來，她就一直堅持讓女兒和我們一起睡覺，並且打算一直這樣，直到未來某個不確定的時間。所以我們可以獨自在牀上的時間幾乎為零。 我們住得離家很遠，所以不可能從家裏人那裏得到幫助。

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After 2 years of no physical intimacy I’m reaching a breaking point. I feel emotionally neglected and sad all the time but I don’t want to ask her to move out. I love her and my daughter dearly but I can’t keep on like this any longer. I’ve mentioned couples therapy but she isn’t interested and doesn’t see a problem with the situation. She’s even suggested I should sleep with other people but this feels like a trap and would just be a distraction from parenting and time with my daughter. I don’t feel emotionally ready for that option, it feels like giving up.

在兩年沒有身體上的親密接觸之後，我的忍耐已經到了極限。 我一直覺得自己在情感上被忽視了，很難過，但我不想讓她搬出去。 我深愛着她和我的女兒，但我不能再這樣下去了。 我曾經提到過夫妻治療，但是她對此並不感興趣，認為這種情況並不是什麼問題。 她甚至建議我應該和其他人睡覺，但是這感覺像是一個陷阱，只會分散我為人父母和影響我和女兒在一起的時間。 我在情感上還沒有準備好做這個選擇，感覺就像是放棄。

I’m totally frustrated and don’t know what to do!

我現在非常沮喪，不知道該怎麼辦！