如何委婉地拒絕他人？_風聞

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I have been in this situation before but this one seems especially akward to me. She’s a good customer of mine and knows I’m single. She’s very nice but 15 years older and very plain- just not my type. I’ve never flirted with her at all- have just always been nice to her. So tonight at work she tells me that she thinks I’m really nice and wants to get to know me better and would I call her. On the spot I said ok- which I guess in a way was leading her on. So now I’ve got to call her….I know someone out there has been in this spot and I’m looking for the most tactful to get out of this while not hurting her feelings if possible. Thank you so much.

（樓主）我以前也曾處理過類似的情況，但這次的似乎特別棘手。她是我的主顧，而且知道我正單身。雖然人挺好但是比我大15歲，而且相貌平平--反正不是我喜歡的類型。我也沒有跟她打情罵俏，只是態度上比較親切。結果今晚上班的時候她跟我説，她覺得我是個不錯的男人，希望瞭解我更多，讓我今晚打電話給她。現在，我不得不拿起聽筒。。。我知道有人也有過類似經驗，誰能告訴我怎麼擺脱這窘境而又儘可能不傷害到她。謝謝了。

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It will always depend upon the way you say things…

就看你怎麼説了。

Suggestion:

1. Talk about your mother/older sister/ teacher in grade school/ when she is around and tell her how she reminds you of them.

建議：當她在你身邊時就常説，她讓你想起了你的母親/大姐/老師。。。

Sometimes we misunderstand people around us.

Sometimes we are reminded of someone that means so much thus the closeness

Sometimes it is just motherly/sisterly friendly.

Let us just hope it is one of those.

有時，我們會誤解身邊的人。

有時，我們也會因為過於親近，而被別人賦予了不一般的意義。

有時，這只是一種朋友/姐弟/母子，關係。。。

希望這只是其中之一吧。

Nice guys like us always just walk into these situations. When you call, remain non-commital. If she wants to meet for coffee (the usual “next step”), it’s up to you. Would you like to have this woman for a friend, but not a more serious relationship?

像哥這樣的好男人時常都會遇上這種情況呢。打電話的時候馬虎敷衍一下，如果她情你去喝咖啡，你就得先想想要不要這樣一個朋友了，或者超越朋友？

Before you call, do some thinking and ask yourself what the ideal relationship would be between you and her, then gear it toward that ideal. If you get some “voices” in your head, follow through on what they say.

在你打電話之前，捫心自問下你心中和她的理想關係是怎樣的，然後向那一目標前進。如果你能聽到自己真正的心聲，那就遵從那個聲音吧。

Women have told me that friends are much more difficult to find than lovers. It may be that she is only after friendship, too. I am privileged to be an extremely close friend with a woman I met; neither of us really want it to go anywhere else than that, but we enjoy hanging out and doing things together, and the friendship is of utmost importance to us. I can honestly say it is one of the more rewarding friendships I’ve ever had; it’s a rush to be such an important part of someone else’s life.

女人們告訴我説，找朋友比找情人還要難得多。也許她真的是想跟你做朋友。哥有幸成為了一個女人的閨中密友，我們都堅守這一尺度而不想繼續深入，但我們都很享受在一起的感覺。而這份友情對我們來説也十分重要。我可以説這比我以前得到的友情更有價值，成為別人生命中如此重要的一部分如此讓人措手不及。

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So call her, get to know her -- you might be pleasantly surprised. Best of luck to you, man.

打電話給她吧，瞭解她吧--乃也許能得到驚喜。給你最好的祝願哦。

hang out with her and make it clear you want to be nothing more than friends at this point. and that you’re flattered that she wants to be with you, but you’re not ready for anything serious.

約她出去，講明白你跟她除了朋友什麼都不想做，她的追求讓你受寵若驚，但你對更深一步的發展沒有準備。

Tell her you’re gay. That way you won’t hurt her feelings.

跟她説你是個基佬。這樣就不會傷害到她的感情了。

If you aren’t comfortable with that, then be a man and tell her what’s up. Not your type. Sorry. Kick rocks.

如果你不好意思這麼説，那就像個男人那樣直接告訴她，嘛事，你不是俺的菜，抱歉，然後閃人。

umm how old r u?…u already messed up boi by saying you will call her…can’t help you there lol…there ain’t nothing nice you can do now

嗯。。。你多大了？你説會跟她打電話就已經搞砸了。。。幫不了你咯，哈哈。。。你必須得去傷她心才行了。

u have two options:

1- call her then after a very short while tell her it won’t work out

2- call her and tell her u think she’s a nice FRIEND, she’ll get the point.

你有兩個選擇。

1，打個電話，沉默片刻，説，這是不可能的。

2，打個電話，説，你是一個好朋友，她懂的。

I would tell her that your not ready to date right now. It’s a lie but I think a good one. I used that on this guy for a while and the entire time we remained friends and no one was hurt.

我會告訴她我還沒準備好約會，這是個謊話，但是善意的。我用這招在男人身上屢試不爽，沒人受傷。

say what you really feel.

but say you still wanna be good friends or

something so she’s not offended. lol.

説出心裏話。

但表示你還是想跟她做朋友，避免她發飆哈。

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just say you know i really appreciate the compliment but i,m not interested i got to many things going on in my life and don,t feel that i can get involved with anyone at this time

就説你很感謝她的這份愛慕，但自己沒有興趣。因為眼下生活中有太多事情，不想把別人牽扯進來。

This is easy. Call her and tell her that your company has a “no dating” policy and while you think she is nice, you have to be the example and play by the rules or else your other employees will not adhere to the policy. Then say, of course Im not assuming you liked me in that way, I just wanted to put that on the table.

這很容易。就説你公司規定不準拍拖。雖然對她有好感，但是作為模範員工要帶頭遵守公司紀律云云。。。當然不是擺高姿態，但得公事公辦。

Sit next to them, say “I like your shoes” , then attack. Got it all memorized.

在她旁邊坐下來，説“我喜歡你的鞋子”，然後突然襲擊。此情可待成追憶。