你長期獨自生活的原因是什麼？_風聞

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I can only tell you why I like to live alone. First of all, I’m an introvert and am quickly depleted by being around others. The constant noise and stimulation wears me out, and gets on my last nerve. When I start getting this way and am unable to get away, I get very crabby and short-tempered. When I was married, twice, I was always trying to find a place to be alone, away from the incessant drone of the television that my husbands turned on the moment they arose, and didn’t turn off until they finally went to bed. It was like fingernails down a blackboard for me. That’s when I started taking hours long hot baths. They were my escape, even though ex #2 constantly disturbed me out of spite. He wanted me to sit with him while he watched television programs that had no interest for me, and was mad that I wouldn’t, so did spiteful things to get even.

我能告訴你我為什麼喜歡一個人住。首先，我是一個內向的人，和別人在一起我很快就會筋疲力盡。持續不斷的噪音和干擾會使我精疲力竭。如果持續這樣，我還無法脱身，我就會變得非常暴躁。當我結過兩次婚後，我總是想找個地方獨處。我的丈夫們總是一起牀就打開電視機，直到上牀睡覺才關掉，那是沒完沒了的嗡嗡聲，我想遠離這些。對我來説就像在手指甲劃黑板的聲音那樣。從那時起，我就開始泡幾個小時的熱水澡。這是我的逃命之道，第二個例子，是為了泄憤而不斷打擾我。他想讓我陪他看那些我不感興趣的電視節目，他很生氣我不陪他看，所以為了報復，他也會對我做一些惡意的事情。

This brings me to my second reason for preferring to live alone: other people’s expectations. All tolled, I was married for 25 years of my life, and dated or was in relationships when I was single. It always involved their having expectations of me that I might not agree with or like. Even making plans for dinner or a party a few days in advance became annoying. When the appointed day came, I may look forward to the date, but I’m just as likely to not feel like going, staying home in my jammies streaming a good movie. This always lead to problems. Because of my introversion, men told me I was the least demanding woman they ever knew. They loved that about me, until they decided it meant I didn’t care for them. I know most other women accept expectations and demands, or obligations, as what one does to maintain a relationship. But, my personality type, ISTP, is fiercely independent and freedom loving. Being bound by obligations makes me feel claustrophobic, gasping for air. Although men who come on strong wanting to spend every free moment with the obxt of their desire makes most women feel loved, it made me feel imprisoned. I broke up with more than one guy for this reason.

這就引出了我喜歡獨自生活的第二個原因：別人的期望。總之，我第一次結婚25年前，那之前單身時還是會約會或談戀愛，但這總是涉及到他們對我的期望，而我則很不喜歡這樣，提前幾天約定好何時去晚餐或聚會也會變得很煩人。當約定的日子到來時，我可能會很期待，但我很可能不想去，而是穿着睡衣呆在家裏看一部好電影。這總是會導致問題。因為我的內向，男人們告訴我，我是他們認識的女人中要求最低的。他們喜歡我的這一點，但直到他們認為這意味着我不在乎他們。我知道大多數其他女人接受一些期待、要求或義務，作為維持一段關係所做的。但是，我的性格類型是非常獨立和熱愛自由的，被義務束縛使我感到幽閉恐怖，我渴望呼吸空氣。雖然那些男人一開始就強烈地想要和對象度過每時每刻，可以讓大多數女人感到被愛，但這讓我感到被囚禁。因為這個原因，我甩了不止一個人。

I know my feelings aren’t common, but there are a few others out there like me. We live alone because it’s our “default” setting. Living with others feels too restrictive, like tight clothing, and downright irritating. I’ve been living alone since I divorced my second husband 20 years ago, and I’ve never been happier. Frankly, I can’t understand why anyone would want to live with someone else. 

我知道我的這感覺不常見，但還有一些人和我一樣。我們獨自生活是因為這是我們的“默認”先天設置。和別人住在一起感覺太拘束了，就像穿了緊身衣服，這非常煩人。自從20年前我和第二任丈夫離婚後，我就一直一個人生活，我從來沒有這麼快樂過。坦白説，我不明白為什麼有人想和別人住在一起。

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Let me tell my reasons for living alone

But before that, I’m an extrovert !! So how is it that I like to live alone more despite being an extrovert ??

I do have a lot of friends no doubt . A lot of people do say so too. But in reality they’re only people I know! I don’t keep people really close to me . So my friends usually talk about their shit or us talking about kpop or anime in general or we do gossip. Well gossiping is something which is not worth to hear and I don’t wanna gossip but , I’m still involved in their talk. So hearing stuff like" This girl is a big hoe , she sucks dick a lot or this that etc ”, it sounds fun hearing this but as you mature these talks sound silly. So I’m tired of hearing such stories , I like to hang out on my own , probably run into trouble and have an adventure alone.

讓我告訴你我獨自生活的理由

但在此之前，我是一個外向的人!!那麼，儘管我是一個外向的人，為什麼我更喜歡獨處呢?

毫無疑問，我確實有很多朋友。很多人也這麼説。但事實上，他們只是我認識的人!我不會讓人靠的我太近。我的朋友們喜歡談論他們的那種事情，我們會談論韓國流行音樂或動漫，或者八卦。八卦是不值得聽的東西，我也不想八卦，但偶爾我還是會參與他們的談話。雖然聽到像“某個女孩是個綠茶，她吮了很多雞雞，或之類的東西”這樣的話聽起來很有趣，但當你成熟了，這些話聽起來很傻。所以我厭倦了聽這樣的故事，所以我喜歡自己出去玩，可能會遇到麻煩，但我更喜歡獨自一人。

Talking about hanging out alone , Having a person over or just having a roommate in general , he or she or it have certain habits which I won’t like. Of course I have to sext carefully, but some behaviours can’t be explained until you notice them. Just imagine you living with a person who has weird habits or has a lust for vodka or cigarettes, meanwhile I’m a non smoker or drinker? Yes!! Could make me be like them?? 90% yes! Now I know why my grandparents tell me to avoid being friends with smokers or drinkers.

I love cosplaying a lot, I started cosplaying this year !! It’s so much fun.!! So I love to have my own personal space to make my costume ..

説到獨處，你可以請一個人來住或者找一個室友，但他或她可能有一些我不喜歡的習慣，當然，你可以仔細辨別，但有些行為是無法發現的，直到你後來才能注意到。想象一下，你和一個有奇怪的習慣或者喜歡伏特加或香煙的人住在一起，而我不抽煙不喝酒?是的，可能會讓我像他們一樣，90%的可能性。這就是為什麼我的祖父母告訴我不要和吸煙者或飲酒者做朋友了。

我非常喜歡cosplay，我是從今年才開始的。太有趣了。所以我喜歡有自己的私人空間來製作我的cos服裝。

I’m happy lgbt!. Last two months a friend of mine tried to convince me I’m a bisexual … me being old enough to know and she ain’t gonna change that. I stoped talking to her now , and yeah it’s 2019 , people can get offended easily now , so me alone also equals not being known within lgbt community.

I did mention I like living alone, there are something’s you can do which outweighs the disadvantage! Those can be like coming out of bath naked without having to dress up inside the bathroom or dancing with your bias whole night or reading some fan fics or devoloping some hobbies !! Possibilities are endless !! And since you’re alone there ain’t gonna be anyone disturbing your sleep ,and no one gonna make disgusting faces when you make some food !! 

我是一個快樂的lgbt。過去兩個月，我的一個朋友試圖説服我是一個雙性戀者，但我年齡已經足夠大，我能知道自己的性取向了，她也不能改變這一點。我現在也不再和她説話了，是的，現在是2019年了，人們都很容易彼此冒犯，所以我也是獨自一人，不被lgbt羣體所知。

我喜歡獨自生活，也有一些事情可以彌補這些缺點！就像光着身子從浴室出來，而不用先在浴室裏化妝，或者整晚按照你的樂趣跳舞，或者閲讀一些小説，以及發展一些愛好！可能性是無限的！既然你是一個人，就不會有人打擾你睡覺，當你做食物的時候，也不會有人表現出不喜歡的表情!!