為什麼有些人總是單身?_風聞
龙腾网-2021-05-19 18:09
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評論原創翻譯:
Sam Tyler
Dude, this is bullshit.
For a start, 5-ft 7-in is not that short. I think the US average is 5-ft 9-in and in the UK 5-ft 10-in for a man of your generation. Taller men are generally more attractive, but the biggest womaniser I know it’s 5-ft 7 tall.
And if you are working out a lot and in really good shape, that is very attractive. This really boosts how people perceive you. I worked with the guy that people described as good looking, when I met him, he looks like a bulldog but just had a muscular body.
Good looking people will always have it much easier in life, anyone that says otherwise is a delusional fool. People are drawn to pretty people.
But I honestly believe so much is down to how someone acts. Most of the time, when I see a really hot girl, the guy is hot too. But actually quite often I see a gorgeous girl with a little runty guy. He must have something about him and I’m pretty sure that he won’t sit around moaning about how no one flirts with him.
老兄,這是胡説八道。
首先,5英尺7英寸並不那麼矮。我想美國的平均水平是5英尺9英寸,而在英國,你們這一代的男人是5英尺10英寸。高大的男人通常更有吸引力,但我所知道的最大的花花公子是5英尺7英寸高。
如果你經常鍛鍊,而且身材非常好,這就非常有吸引力。這真的會提高人們對你的看法。我和一個被人們形容為好看的人一起工作,當我見到他時,他看起來像一隻鬥牛犬,但只是有一個肌肉發達的身體。
長得好的人在生活中總是容易得多,任何否認的人都是妄想的傻瓜。人們會被漂亮的人吸引。
但説實話,我相信很多東西是取決於某人的行為方式。大多數時候,當我看到一個非常性感的女孩時,她身邊那個男人也很性感。但實際上,我經常看到一個漂亮的女孩和一個矮小的男人在一起。他一定有自己的特點,而且我非常肯定他不會坐在那裏抱怨沒有人和他調情。
Alexander Inkel
Your conclusion is false. Speaking as a male with good facial structure and a good body, relationships don’t just click or work out easily. Sure I see women who are attracted, but that initial attraction does not translate to success. A lot of it is how much social value you have. This I find comes down to your confidence, self image, and beliefs you hold over your self regarding social interactions, success with women, humor, etc. I’m a pretty introverted and abstract minded person, so the ways I communicate with people often aren’t very standard, so dating is strange. You really have to find people you just mix with I think.
你的結論是錯誤的。作為一個具有良好面部結構和身材的男性來説,人際關係並非你説的那麼容易。當然,我看到有一些被吸引的女性,但這種最初的吸引力並不能轉化為成功。它在很大程度上是你有多少社會價值。我發現這歸結於你的自信、自我形象,以及你對自己在社會交往方面的信念,對女性的成功,幽默等等。我是一個相當內向和抽象思維的人,所以我與人溝通的方式往往不是很標準,所以約會進行得很奇怪。我認為你真的必須找到你正好能與之交融的人。
Malik Hughes
you may or may not have ASD, your behavior resembles mine and I know I have ASD
你可能有也可能沒有自閉症,但你的行為很像我的,我知道我有自閉症
Bella Freeman
Too many unattractive people are erroneously diagnosed with autism. There are other reasons why people get rejected.
太多的無吸引力的人被錯誤地診斷出患有自閉症。人們被拒絕的原因還有其他的原因。
Richard Shirk
The question has so many answers and none of them will ever be the same. Different circumstances and experiences guide folks in their decisions.
I use to think that the “ American dream “ was the basis of relationships and marriage.
The age I grew up in saw people stay married for many years. Relationships also were pretty much permanent.
In this age, a lot of “ superficial “ folks walk the earth. They want things ready made and don’t want to make the effort to work things out when they go wrong.
Being single is a “ CHOICE" and not a “ DISEASE". I have read relationship books by different authors, but I can’t seem to find authors from my generation with worthwhile experiences to draw from.
Relationships are like Google. You look on dating sites and the profiles are a joke.
It just seems to me that it is a lot of “ work" to do relationships and folks just are not willing to go through emotional pain and suffering for a chance to be happy.
Is it worth it? For me, it is not, so I will stay single ( unless something really changes my mind). I don’t see a relationship in my future PERIOD???
Please note this is my opinion and experience speaking and some may disagree. There is this song I remember called “ PEOPLE MAKE THE WORLD GO ROUND". I will just leave it at that……
這個問題有很多答案,沒有一個會是相同的。不同的環境和經驗指導着人們的決定。
我曾經認為,“美國夢"是關係和婚姻的基礎。
在我成長的年代,人們的婚姻生活會持續很多年。關係也幾乎是永久性的。
在這個時代,有很多"膚淺"的人在地球上行走。他們想要現成的東西,不想在出問題時努力解決。
單身是一種"選擇”,而不是一種"疾病"。我讀過不同作者的關於兩性關係的書,但我似乎找不到我們這一代人的作者有值得借鑑的經驗。
關係就像谷歌。你在約會網站上瀏覽,而那些個人資料就是個笑話。
在我看來,處理關係需要很多"工作",人們不願意為了一個幸福的機會而經歷情感上的痛苦和折磨。
這值得嗎?對我來説,不值得,所以我將保持單身(除非真的有事情改變我的想法)。我不認為我的未來有什麼關係,永遠不會。
請注意這是我的觀點和經驗,有些人可能不同意。我記得有一首歌叫"人讓世界運轉"。就這樣,不説了……
Evelyn Arden
How do you explain then that despite me getting compliments from people and being hit on and told that I’m a kind and smart individual, I’ve never managed to get a guy to take me to an actual date or gotten in a relationship with a man?
People perceiving you attractive apparently doesn’t mean anything or the fact, that there’s obxtively speaking nothing wrong with your personality either. We all know people who have no issues to attract the opposite sex, regardless of how they look, behave or what their personality is like.
They seem to find relationships with an ease, are never single very long periods of time and they’re showered with sexual and romantic interest and attention. Others are those, who never attract anyone despite many positive attributes. I find this mysterious and odd, I’ve never managed to find any rational explanation to this phenomenon. These favored and lucky people typically also get exactly the person they desire for a relationship and the other person reciprocates their romantic feelings.
那麼你如何解釋,儘管我得到了人們的讚美,被人搭訕,並被告知我是一個善良和聰明的人,但我從未設法讓一個男人帶我去參加真正的約會或與一個男人建立關係?
人們認為你有吸引力顯然並不意味着什麼,或者説,客觀地説,你的個性也沒有什麼問題。我們都知道有些人在吸引異性方面沒有問題,不管他們的外表、行為或性格如何。
他們似乎很容易找到關係,從來不會長期單身,而且他們會受到性和浪漫的興趣和關注。還有一些人,儘管有許多積極的屬性,但卻從未吸引過任何人。我覺得這很神秘,也很奇怪,我從來沒能找到對這種現象的任何合理解釋。這些受寵的幸運兒通常也能準確地得到他們渴望的人的關係,而對方也會回應他們的浪漫情感。
Michael Jones
A guy told me a long time ago, you’ve got to play the cards you’ve been dealt. It sounds like you’re self-aware, so work on the things that you can change. You aren’t born with social skills, you learn them through practice.
很久以前,一個人告訴我,你必須玩好你所拿到的牌。聽起來你是有自我意識的,所以在你能改變的事情上下功夫。你不是生來就有社交技巧的,你要通過練習來學習它們。
Ble Tolife
Omg i can relate to this beside the fact i dont work and dont have a degree and i am 25 which make me feel more worthless
天啊,我跟你描述的一樣,除了我沒有工作,我沒有學位,我25歲,這讓我覺得自己更加毫無價值
Biboum Joelle Ojong
you are 1m 70 and you think you are short?
你一米七覺得自己很矮?
Andrew Ang
I love your answer, harsh truth, but truth nevertheless.
我喜歡你的回答,嚴酷的真理,但還是真理。
Kyrst Mitch
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
美麗只存在於觀察者的眼中
Oyez Delta
idk man i’ve seen some nightmarish looking guys with partners/spouses. maybe there just isn’t anyone you connect with.
我不懂,夥計,我見過一些長得看起來很可怕的人,但他們有伴侶/配偶。也許只是你不夠主動。
Sofia Safwa
First of all you arent short! 170 isnt short !! And I am a 172 female.
Second , if u have good shape.. then u r somewhat attractive. I just cant thing k of an “ugly “ man. its beyond me.
Maybe u go to somewhat young and pretty ladies. Young people have their ideals. U cant blame them. But if more unfortunate human beings want company they have to settle. I guess.
首先,你並不矮! 170歲並不矮!! 我是一個172的女性。
第二,如果你有好的身材……那麼你就有一定的吸引力。我只是無法想象一個"醜陋"的男人,我無法想象。
也許你去找的是一些年輕漂亮的女士。年輕人有他們的理想。你不能責怪他們。但如果更多不幸的人想有個伴,他們就必須妥協。我想。
Anonymous
As a 31-year-old man who has never ever been in a relationship, it comes down to several reasons.
It seems that I’m physically unattractive to women. I go to the gym, eat pretty well, dress well etc. I’m not overweight or anything like that. But I’m short, went completely bald by the time I was 25 - no, shaving your head will not magically turn you into Vin Diesel - and got some congenital postural abnormalities I can do nothing about. I’m almost the opposite of “tall, dark and handsome”.
I have very nerdy interests that most people - which obviously includes women - find either boring or scary. I enjoy spending my time on things such as quantum mechanics, neuroscience, and macroeconomics. At the same time, I dislike small talk centered around TV shows, celebrities, food etc.
From high school on I’ve spent my entire life in male-dominated environments (STEM) where women are hard to find. The few that exist are all taken or not interested.
I tried online dating, but as an OkCupid user I’ve only become more disillusioned. It seems that the vast majority of women aged 25–35 online care about little else than traveling around the world all the time, eating fancy foods, taking snapshots for their Instagram profiles, and listing demands that I have to meet to be worthy of talking to them. Out of several hundreds of profiles, I sent what I believe were kind, thoughtful, personalized messages (no generic “hi there” stuff, nor anything needy or creepy) to five women that appeared to be at somewhat intellectually-inclined. None replied. I don’t blame them - I’m not one of those guys who think that women owe them something - but that about sums it up for me.
In summary, I’m always single because I’m not interesting to the opposite sex, and because I have a very hard time finding women I could connect with even if they were interested.
作為一個31歲了從來沒有談過戀愛的男人,我歸結為幾個原因。
1.似乎我在身體上對女性沒有吸引力。我去健身房,吃得很好,穿得很好等等。我沒有超重或任何類似的情況。但我很矮,25歲時就完全禿了--不,剃光頭不會神奇地把你變成文-迪塞爾--而且有一些先天性的姿勢異常,我對此無能為力。我幾乎是 “高大、深沉和英俊"的反面。
2.我有非常書呆子的興趣,大多數人--這裏顯然包括女性--都覺得無聊或可怕。我喜歡把時間花在量子力學、神經科學和宏觀經濟學等方面。同時,我不喜歡以電視節目、名人、食物等為中心的閒談。
3.從高中開始,我的一生都在以男性為主的環境(STEM)中度過,那裏很難找到女性。為數不多的女性都是有主的,或者不感興趣。
4.我嘗試過網上約會,但作為一個OkCupid的用户,我只會變得更加失望。似乎絕大多數25-35歲的女性在網上關心的是,除了一直在世界各地旅行,吃高級食品,為她們的Instagram個人資料拍快照,以及列出我必須滿足的要求才值得與她們交談之外,幾乎沒有別的。在幾百份資料中,我向五位看起來還有點智商的女性發送了我認為是親切、周到、個性化的信息(沒有通用的"你好”,也沒有任何需要或令人毛骨悚然的東西)。沒有人回覆。我不怪他們--我不是那種認為女人欠他們東西的人--但這對我來説是個總結。
總之,我一直是單身,因為我對異性不感興趣,也因為我很難找到對我感興趣也能與我聯繫的女人。