對於即將步入20多歲的年輕人，最好的建議是什麼？_風聞

【來源龍騰網】

評論原創翻譯：

Anas Ansari, BCA from University of Lucknow

I live on the 9th floor.

A floor below me, lives a small family of three; father, mother and their beautiful, kind-hearted, 15-yo daughter, Alina. I don’t know her personally or have ever talked to her. But everyone in the building knows her. Even our watchman calls her by name. That’s how I came to know her. She greets everyone. She loves planting flowers. She plays with every kid in the building. She is the kind of girl who will not have enemies, ever ! I hope so.

Usually, I return home by 8 and I always see her, in school dress, in the lift. Always Upbeat!

Yesterday, after doing a long, boring night-shift, I came home at around 11 in the morning. I entered the lift. I realized I won’t be seeing her today. Smiling, I went to my room. Slept.

An hour later, the cook, came hurriedly, woke me up in shock, saying, “Bhaiyya, wo 8th floor waali ladki balcony se gir gayi!!”. ( Sir, the girl on 8th floor fell from her balcony. )

I ran towards the lift. In the lift, I was praying, “Please, God !! Let that news be false!!” I was begging.

As I reached ground floor, there was a huge crowd. My heart sank. They were taking her to the hospital. I just got a glimpse of her ‘Pooh’ hair clip. It was swinging down on her hair end. I was devastated.

After an hour, her body came, as she had lost a lot of blood. Her mother was in shock-silence. Her father was crying like a baby. He would try to stand but couldn’t and collapsed on the floor. I had never seen anyone cry like that in my life.

我住在九樓。

在我樓下，住着一個三口之家，父親、母親和他們美麗善良的15歲女兒艾莉娜。

我不認識她，也從來沒有和她説過話，但是大樓裏的每個人都認識她，甚至我們的看門人也會叫她的名字，所以我才認識她，她向每個人問好，她喜歡種花，她和這棟樓裏的每個孩子玩，她是那種永遠不會有敵人的女孩！我希望她繼續如此。

通常，我八點回家，我總能看到她，穿着校服，乘着電梯，總是很開心！

昨天，在一個漫長又無聊的夜班之後，我上午11點左右才回到家，我走進電梯，我意識到我今天見不到她了，我微笑着回到我的房間，睡覺。

一個小時以後，廚師匆匆趕來，驚醒了我，他説 : “Bhaiyya, wo 8th floor waali ladki balcony se gir gayi!!

( 先生，8樓的女孩從陽台上摔了下來！！ )

我朝電梯跑去，在電梯裏，我祈禱着，“ 求求你，上帝！告訴我這個消息是假的 ! ”我當時在懇求着。

當我到達一樓時，周圍一大羣人，我的心沉了下去。

他們正送她去醫院，我只瞥見了一眼她的髮卡，髮卡在她的髮梢上盪來盪去。

我崩潰了。

一個小時後，回來的是她的屍體，她因失血過多而死。

她母親震驚得一聲不吭，她父親哭得像個嬰兒，他想站起來，但站不起來，倒在地板上。

我這輩子從沒見過有人哭成這樣。

In the evening, I came to know the saddest part:

She hadn’t fallen.

Someone had seen her jump from the balcony.

Then came the whole story.

She wasn’t good in one of the subjects. Her parents used to scold her. She had failed in her exams. Her teacher had punished her. He used to insult her in front of class. She was told that she wasn’t the child her parents were expecting as they both were well educated and always a step up on path of life . She had ruined her family’s reputation. The day she died, her parent (I’m not sure if mom or dad) didn’t speak to her at all.

She was getting emotionally tortured by her loved ones and teachers, everyday. She couldn’t cope with that. She found it easier to end her life.

At night, I went to their home. People were there in silence. The only voice I heard was of her father. He was asking for her forgiveness. Repeatedly. His wife was consoling him to get up from there.

He said, “ Nahi. Aaj baat kar lene do meri gudia se. Kal chali jayegi. Uth jao, beta. Please uth jao. Alina. Alina!”. ( No. Let me talk to my doll, today. Tomorrow she’ll be gone. Please get up, my princess. Please get up. Alina. Alina ! )

He started crying as if he had lost his world. And I knew he had. I couldn’t control my tears any longer and came outside.

. . .

到了晚上，我才知道最悲哀的部分：

她並不是摔下去的。

有人看到她從陽台上跳了下來。

然後就有了整個故事。

她有一門功課學得不好，她的父母經常責罵她，她在考試中失敗了，她的老師懲罰她，經常在班級面前侮辱她，她被告知，她不是她父母所期望的孩子，因為父母都受過良好的教育，在生活的道路上總能更上一層樓，她毀了她家的聲譽。

她死的那天，她的父母（我不確定是媽媽還是爸爸）根本沒有和她説過一句話。

她每天都被她的親人和老師折磨得情緒低落，她無法承受這些，她發現結束自己的生命更容易一些。

晚上，我去了他們家。

大家都沉默不語，我聽到的唯一聲音是她父親，他在請求她的原諒，一遍又一遍…..

他的妻子在安慰他，讓他從那裏起來。

他説：“Nahi Aaj baat kar lene do meri gudia se. Kal chali jayegi. Uth jao, beta.！”

( 不，讓我和我的娃娃説説話，就今天，明天她就要離開了，請起來啊，我的公主，請起來吧，阿琳娜，阿琳娜！)

他開始哭，彷彿他失去了整個世界。

而我知道他的確失去了世界，我再也無法控制我的眼淚，我走到了外面。

……

If you’re a teenager,

Please do not end your life just because someone scolds you. Just because you failed in one subject. Forget one subject. If you have never passed a single exam. Its still not worth ending your life. Your parents love you. Its just that they sometimes cannot understand that Failure is also a step towards success.

Please. Please. Please. I beg you. Never end your life. Whatever the reason is. Talk to someone you can share. Come online there will be many people to help you. Come to me. I’ll be happy to help you. Everyone will. Trust me. Oh please, Trust me!

Please don’t end your life. I will not be able to bear losing any other Alina.

Your parents will love to hear “I love you, mom/dad” from you.

. . .

如果你是一個青少年。

請不要因為有人責罵你就結束你的生命，不要僅僅因為你有一門課不及格就結束你的生命，忘掉這門課，哪怕你從來沒有一次考試及格，它仍然不值得結束你的生命。

你的父母愛你，只是他們有時不能理解，失敗也是走向成功的一步。

求你了/ 求你了/求你了，我請求你，永遠不要結束你的生命，無論原因是什麼。

和你可以分享的人談談，到網上來，會有很多人幫助你。

來找我吧，我很樂意幫助你，每個人都會的，相信我，請相信我 ！

請不要結束你的生命。

我無法忍受再失去一個阿琳娜。

你的父母會喜歡聽到你説 “我愛你，媽媽/爸爸”。

……

If you’re a parent,

Why ? Why would you do something like this to your beloved one, your prince(ss). What would be the need of high, esteemed qualifications when there will be no one to celebrate with ?

Don’t you know that a child understands more when you talk or explain them something, lovingly ?

Then why would you do this ?

Talk to them in the purest form of love. They will understand everything.

If you have to show them anger, just do it in limits. But its your duty to talk to your child and explain, in as much warmness as you can, why you scolded them. And an apology would take you places. Trust me.

Please be warm and calm with your kids.

Your kids will love to hear “I love you, my child” from you.

Marks are not everything. They are nothing, actually, as compared to your life.

. . .

如果你是父母。

為什麼？你為什麼要對你心愛的人，你的寶貝做這樣的事，當沒有人與你一起慶祝的時候，你要受人尊敬的高學歷又有何用？

難道你不知道，當你充滿愛意地與孩子交談或向他們解釋時，孩子會更容易理解？

那麼，為什麼你要這樣做？

以最純粹的愛的形式與他們交談，他們會理解的。

如果你必須向他們表示憤怒，就必須做到有限度，而你有責任與你的孩子交談，並儘可能温暖地解釋你為什麼責罵他們。道聲歉會很有作用，相信我。

請對你的孩子保持温暖和冷靜。

你的孩子會喜歡聽你説 “我愛你，我的孩子”。

分數不代表一切，事實上，與你的生活相比，它們不算什麼。