無論你的孩子做出任何職業選擇，你都會支持嗎？_風聞

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評論原創翻譯：

Edward Patrick Akinyemi

Yes, but one condition only. Let’s say my daughter wants to be a comedian, fine, but then she has to do absolutely fucking everything she can to make it work.

I don’t want any of this “I’m really passionate about comedy” and then see you scrolling on Facebook for two hours per day. Passionate about comedy? Then read every book there is about it, watch documentaries about how the Jerry Seinfelds or Dave Chappelle’s rose to the fame they are at today, follow blogs of the best comedians, reach out to comedians for advice, take online courses on improving your comedy-related skills, and so on.

I constantly hear teenagers throw around this term “passion” as if it’s a free lunch.Passionate about an unorthodox career choice? Well then you better work twice or three times as hard to make it work because these career paths are unorthodox precisely because they are much more difficult to pull off.

If I see my child do everything, and I mean everything, she possibly can to make her career choice happen, then hell yeah I’ll support her. But if I see this half-assed shit of paying lip service to this ‘passion’ but not put in the hard hours to acquire the skills needed for it and beyond, then absolutely not.

是的，但只有一個條件。假設我女兒想成為一名喜劇演員，好吧，但她必須盡她所能來有所成就。

我不想看到你每天在臉書上滾動兩個小時“我真的很喜歡喜劇”（的話題）。喜歡喜劇嗎？然後閲讀每一本關於它的書，觀看關於傑瑞·宋飛或大衞·查普爾如何成名的紀錄片，關注最佳喜劇演員的博客，向喜劇演員尋求建議，參加在線課程，提高你的喜劇相關技能，等等。

我經常聽到青少年把“激情”這個詞當作免費午餐。對非正統職業選擇充滿激情？那麼你最好加倍努力工作。因為這些職業道路之所以是非正統的，正是因為它們更難實現。

如果我看到我的孩子做了一切，我的意思是一切，並可能依此做出她的職業選擇，那麼我會支持她。但是，如果我看到這種半途而廢的狗屎，對這種“激情”只是口頭上説説而已，卻沒有花上艱苦的時間去獲得它所需要的技能，那絕對不行。

Dan Bradbury

No.

不是的。

I don’t have kids. So let’s talk about my nieces and nephews. In life, balance is everything. Having a beer is good, drinking twenty a day is bad. Nothing wrong with getting a bit of plastic surgery to fix something you really hate about yourself. Having hundreds of surgeries to make yourself look like a Ken doll is way overboard. Life doesn’t give us simple, black and white answers. The truth resists simplicity.

我沒有孩子。讓我們談談我的侄女和侄子。在生活中，平衡就是一切。喝啤酒好，每天喝二十杯卻不好。做點整形手術來修復你自己討厭的地方沒什麼錯。為了讓自己看起來像個肯娃娃，做了數百次手術這實在是太過分了。生活不會給我們簡單的黑白（標準）答案。真理從不簡單。

Nobody should raise their child with the lesson, “Do anything you want. Be happy.” That was the mantra of American parents from about 1950 onward. It was stupid and ultimately destructive. Parenting, as I’m told by parents, is hard, complex and endlessly agonizing. I get it. No parent wants to tell their kid, “When you grow up, life will be very hard for you.” But parents really should do that.

任何人都不應該以“做你想做的任何事。快樂就好”的教育（理念）來撫養他們的孩子。這是1950年以後美國父母的口頭禪。這是愚蠢的，最終具有破壞性。正如父母告訴我的那樣，為人父母是艱難、複雜，會有無盡的痛苦。我懂了。沒有父母想告訴他們的孩子，“當你長大後，生活會很艱難。”但父母真的應該這樣做。

There was a rare, RARE historic blip in world (and American) history where a kid could grow up to do/be nearly anything. That blip is gone. Parents really should tell their kids this, “You don’t have to pick a soul-sapping, misery-inducing career. But you must look at the world, assess the market and choose a decent career from those that are available that will give you a good salary, reasonable marketability when you lose your job (and you will — multiple times) and give you some reasonable joy. Wealth doesn’t buy happiness, but a decent income helps you create an environment for you and your family in which happiness can flourish. Without that, you will hate your life.”

在世界（和美國）歷史上有一個罕見的歷史性轉折點，即認為一個孩子長大後幾乎可以做任何事情。那個高光時刻消失了。父母真的應該告訴他們的孩子，“你不必選擇一個讓人心碎、痛苦的職業。但你必須放眼世界，評估市場，從現有的職業中選擇一個體面的職業，當你失去工作時，這將給你帶來高薪、合理的市場競爭力（而且你會——多次證明這是對的）給你一些不錯的快樂。財富買不到幸福，但體面的收入可以幫助你為自己和家人創造一個幸福的環境。沒有這些，你會憎恨你的生活。”

I wish parents today would do that. I think my generation has started down that path. But it hasn’t happened quickly enough. With all of my nieces and nephews, I push them VERY HARD to identify as quickly as possible if they’re going to go on the college path. If not, I tell them to be plumbers.

我希望今天的父母會這樣做。我想我們這一代人已經開始走這條路了。但速度還不夠快。對於我所有的侄女和侄子，如果他們要上大學，我會盡力讓他們確定自己想做什麼。如果不能，我就告訴他們去做個水管工。

Jon Davis

No.

不會的。

There are some choices a kid can make that seem good at the time, fun or fulfilling, but will ruin their lives forever.

一個孩子可以做出一些選擇，這些選擇在當時看起來很好，很有趣或者很有成就感，但會永遠毀掉他們的生活。

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No. Kids make bad choices. The parents’ job is to guide them away from that. That is their one job. You aren’t a friend or a cheerleader. You’re a parent and you guide and direct them, and if need be, drag them kicking and screaming from a future that they can’t yet see, because supporting them doesn’t mean they have to like you.

不，孩子們會做出錯誤的選擇。父母的工作是引導他們遠離這些。這是他們唯一的工作。你不是朋友，也不是拉拉隊隊長。你是父母，你需要引導和指導他們。如果需要的話，把他們從他們還看不到的未來拉出來，因為支持他們並不意味着他們必須喜歡你。

Ramya Annadurai

Definitely. I will be there to support him. My son wished to be a truck driver, actor, athlete, traveler and police man. Currently, he wishes to be a defense personnel. He is interested in running. Recently, he won Championship Medal in Inter-District Level Karate Meet held in my hometown. He loves cricket. He is into spin bowling. He operates my laptop as a pro. He may be into software development. Don’t know about the future. I told him clearly that “Dear be the one whom you wished and loved to be. I will be there to support you”. I want him to be happy with his life and career.

肯定的。我會支持他的。我兒子曾經希望成為卡車司機、演員、運動員、旅行者和警察。目前，他希望成為一名國防人員。他對跑步感興趣。最近，他在家鄉舉行的地區級空手道比賽中獲得冠軍獎牌。他喜歡板球。他喜歡旋轉保齡球。他像專家一樣操作我的筆記本電腦。他可能對軟件開發感興趣。不清楚未來走向。但我清楚地告訴他，“親愛的，做你希望和想要成為的人，我會支持你。”。我希望他對自己的生活和事業感到滿意。