你有真正的朋友嗎_風聞

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評論原創翻譯：

Michelle Moree

I dont have any friends whether it’s real or not real. But I will say that it takes something for me to call someone a friend. You have to have my phone number and text me and want to hang out with me. No one does in my school except for my sister.

I guess I have a weird personality but I dont understand why no one likes me and doesn’t want to be my friend. People are always so rude to me even though I have barely ever talked to them. I just dont get it because I’m nice to everyone whether I like them or not, even if they’re the “weird" kid.

It’s nice being lonely a lot and I dont have to worry about overlapping plans, but I really would like someone to talk to and to hang our with because it just gets sad after a while.

Let’s just say I cry a lot.

不管是真的還是假的,我沒有朋友。但我要説，對我而言稱某人為朋友是很重要的一件事。你必須有我的電話號碼，發短信給我以及想和我一起出去玩。但除了我妹妹，在我的學校裏沒有人這樣做。

我想我的性格很古怪，但我不明白為什麼沒有人喜歡我，也不想成為我的朋友。人們對我總是很粗魯—儘管我幾乎沒有和他們説話。但是我就是不明白，因為我對每個人都很好—不管我喜歡與否，即使他們是“古怪”的少年。

經常孤獨其實挺好，對此我不必擔心計劃重疊，但我真的很想有人和我聊天，和我們一起玩，因為過了一段孤獨地的時間後會很難過。

這麼説吧，我經常哭。

Hope Switon

I texted one of my friends to let him know that I’d be baking Christmas cookies the following day, and to ask if he wanted me to make some extra ones for him. He politely accepted, and asked if I needed help with the baking. We spent hours baking together.

I vented to a martial artist friend when I was approached by creeps. He told me that if they got too close for comfort, I should just text him.

I called a friend to ask if he could help me put up a lamp. He collected his tools and spent hours working the faulty electrics to make it work.

I have friends who will let me rant about whatever guy I’m into that week; friends who will pick up the conversation like no time has passed, three months after the last time we spoke; friends who will help when I have a problem I can’t fix alone; friends who will go out of their way to make me happy.

Yes, I have some real friends. Some good ones.

Do you have any real friends?

我給我的一個朋友發了短信，告訴他我第二天要烤聖誕餅乾，並問他是否想讓我為他多做一些。他禮貌地接受了，並問我烘烤時是否需要他幫忙。我們一起烤了幾個小時。

有變態接近我時，我向一個武術家朋友發泄了一通。他告訴我，如果他們離得太近，我應該給他發短信。

我打電話給一個朋友，問他是否能幫我掛一盞燈。他收集了工具，花了幾個小時修理有故障的電器並使它工作。

我有一些朋友，他們會讓我對我在那一週遇到的任何人大發雷霆；在我們上次交談三個月後，這些朋友會像什麼都沒發生過一樣繼續交談；當我遇到自己無法解決的問題時，朋友會幫助我；朋友們會不遺餘力地讓我快樂。

是的，我有一些真正的朋友，一些很好的朋友。

你有真正的朋友嗎？

Uday Singh

My first great friend was an academically superb guy, always topping the class in his test scores, always getting high grades. In fact we do talk nowadays, but very rarely, he’s in another country now. But before shifting to another country, there were many opportunities for us to meet or talk on Skype, but he would always have this excuse that he’s playing with his young brother, and he’s busy, etc.. I couldn’t blame him.

I had another friend at my drama class, he was very cool, very funny by personality. We both got along, we liked exploring, acting together. But I after two years I slowly distanced myself away from him because I felt like I could never take him serious, or he wouldn’t take me serious. I had this impression that he liked playing with feelings. Nowadays we don’t talk at all, he has his life going on, I have mine. We don’t HATE each other, no not at all, we always welcome each other! it’s just, life moves on..

我的第一個好朋友是一個學術上非常優秀的人，考試成績總是全班第一，成績總是很高。事實上，我們現在有交談，但很少，他現在在另一個國家。但在轉移到另一個國家之前，我們在Skype上有很多機會見面或交談，但他總是有這樣的藉口：他在和弟弟玩，他很忙等等，對此我不能責怪他。

我在戲劇課上還有一個朋友，他很酷，性格很有趣。我們倆相處融洽，我們喜歡探索，一起表演。但兩年後，我慢慢地與他疏遠，因為我覺得我永遠不會把他當回事，或者他不會把我當回事。我覺得他喜歡玩弄感情。現在我們根本不説話，他有自己的生活，我有自己的生活。我們不恨對方，一點也不，我們總是互相歡迎！只是，生活還得繼續。

Until September 2017, all my teenage hood since the age of 12, I used to be this guy who… had personality problems. I was very possessive, over thoughtful, constantly insecure and very emotional. In other words, I didn’t have a life, I depended my happiness too much on others, especially on this girl I had an infatuation on. I had an infatuation on a girl for 6 years, since the age of 13. My mid teenage hood was the darkest moment of my life so far…

But now, I’m 19 now I’m happy to say that I’m living happy . That girl I had a severe crush on, she’s across the Atlantic ocean from where I am, we don’t have any contact at all. But I just wish she’s happy, and safe, and living pleasant… I don’t know if I love her or not, but I shouldn’t feel hurt. She never made a promise to me, and didn’t have to. She has her life, I have mine.

Since 2017 September, I changed a lot. I become more self-determined, I started going to the gym, and from there my self-confidence sky-rocketed. I feel very strong nowadays. About friendship, I gained a lot of friends because of the decision to change myself.

直到2017年9月，我從12歲起就一直是一個個性有問題的人。我佔有慾很強，過度深思熟慮， 常感不安，情緒很激動。換句話説，我沒有自己的生活，我的幸福太依賴別人了，尤其是這個我迷戀的女孩。我從13歲開始迷戀了一個女孩6年。到目前為止，我的青少年時期是我生命中最黑暗的時刻。

但現在，我19歲了，我很高興地説我活得很開心。我迷戀的那個女孩和我分別在大西洋兩岸，我們沒有任何聯繫。但我只希望她幸福，安全，過得愉快，我不知道我是否愛她，但我不應該感到受傷。她從來沒有向我許過承諾，也沒有必要。她有她的生活，我有我的生活。

自2017年9月以來，我改變了很多。我變得更加自信，我開始去健身房，在那裏我的自信心直線上。。我現在感覺很強壯。關於友誼，我收穫了很多朋友，因為我決定改變自己。

Scott Murray

The other day I bumped into a good friend of mine while walking the dog. Unfortunately, we don’t see each other as much as we used to, but I suppose that’s a natural side-effect of getting older.

He proposed that we go for a few pints later that day.

I’ve been pretty consumed with my current project, and I try to avoid drinking wherever possible, but I know he’s been going through a hard time as of late (and I love beer), so I didn’t hesitate to take him up on the proposition.

I’m glad I did. He filled me in on the unfortunate sequence of events that had unfolded for him in the last few months.

He’s been a tree surgeon in the same firm since he was 16 years old. A few months ago, after finishing a days work, an elderly lady next door asked him and another lad if they could do a quick job in her garden, and she would pay cash.

前幾天我在遛狗的時候碰到了我的一個好朋友。不幸的是，我們不再像以前那樣經常見面了，但我認為這是變老的自然副作用。

他提議我們那天晚些時候去喝個幾品脱。

我一直在忙我現在的項目，我儘量避免喝酒，但我知道他最近經歷了一段艱難的時期(我喜歡啤酒)，所以我毫不猶豫地接受了他的提議。

我很高興我這麼做了。他把過去幾個月發生在他身上的一連串不幸的事情告訴了我。

他從16歲起就在同一家公司做樹木修補專家。幾個月前，在完成了一天的工作後，隔壁的一位老太太問他和另一個小夥子是否可以快速去她的花園裏工作，她願意付現金。

They did the job, took the cash, and later found out this was against the rules of the firm and they were sacked immediately. Luckily, he was able to find a new job sharpish, as a courier. New employees don’t have to pay a deposit upfront to use the delivery van, rather the company withholds the first month’s pay and withhold it until they are finished with the vehicle.

He didn’t love the job by any means, but it was a job. A few weeks into it, my friend had an unfortunate crash on the motorway. Not only did this mean he lost his deposit, but he also had to go to court as the terms of the insurance were unclear.

At one point, it looked like he may have to pay almost ￡10,000 out of his own pocket.

Luckily the court found that the company was liable to pay instead. Safe to say this was all a very stressful experience, especially so when combined with the fact that he didn’t get paid for any of the work he had done (due to the deposit) and he was struggling to keep his relationship together.

他們做了工作，拿走了現金，後來發現這違反了公司的規定，他們立即被解僱。幸運的是，他找到了一份新工作，作為一名快遞員。新員工使用送貨車是不需要預付定金的，相反，公司會扣留第一個月的工資，直到它們能抵扣汽車的錢為止。

他一點也不喜歡這份工作，但它確實是一份工作。幾周後，我的朋友在高速公路上不幸撞車。這不僅意味着他失去了押金，而且由於保險條款不明確，他還不得提出上訴。

在某一時刻，他似乎不得不自掏腰包支付近1萬英鎊。

幸運的是，法院發現該公司有賠償責任。可以肯定地説，這是一次非常有壓力的經歷，尤其是考慮到他所做的任何工作都沒有得到報酬(因為押金)，他還在努力維持他的關係。

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He found another job, this time a groundsman at a local racecourse. The money is good, and they have set him up with an apartment on site for a very reasonable price.

In a bid to make up for lost time and make some extra cash, he started to do weekend work with some old friends who were still in the tree surgery business.

One weekend, a three-story ladder came crashing down and the base collided with his nose. The impact concussed him immediately. When he came to, his arms from the elbow downwards were totally numb. Although he has since managed to recover, the days following were filled with excruciating pain.

Throughout this time, I’ve tried to be there for him as much as I could. Sometimes we would go out for drinks, sometimes we would just stay in, sometimes we would talk, and other times we would just play FIFA with a few beers and escape the world for a bit.

他找到了另一份工作，這次是在當地的一個賽馬場做場地管理員。工資很不錯，他們已經為他在現場以非常合理的價格提供了一套公寓。

為了彌補失去的時間和賺些額外的錢，他開始和一些仍在做樹木修補的老朋友于週末一起工作。

一個週末，一架三層樓高的梯子墜落，底座與他的鼻子相撞。衝擊力立即使他受到衝擊。當他甦醒過來時，他的手臂從肘部向下完全麻木了。儘管他已經成功康復，但接下來的日子裏充滿了痛苦。

在這段時間裏，我盡我所能在他身邊。有時我們會出去喝酒，有時我們會呆在家裏，有時我們聊天，其他時候，我們會喝點啤酒玩《FIFA》，暫時逃離這個世界。

Usually, he would be working overtime on the weekends, or sometimes he might simply say he needed his own space.

I kept in close contact with him during these months, but this was the first time we really got deep into everything that had been happening.

Things seem to be looking up for him now, he’s faced each challenge head on and I have more respect for him than perhaps he will ever know. He’s a genuinely great guy.

He asked about me. I told him I’m close to finishing a book which I plan to self-publish and a few other side projects through my social media platform.

Bearing in mind that everyone up until this point, including my friends and family, focused on the worst case scenario -

通常，他會在週末加班，有時他可能只是説他需要自己的空間。

在這幾個月裏，我一直與他保持密切聯繫，但這是我們第一次真正深入瞭解發生的一切。

現在他的情況似乎好轉了，他直面了每一個挑戰，我尊重他的程度比他可能知道的更甚。他是一個真正偉大的人。

他問起了我，我告訴他我快要完成一本書了，我計劃自己出版這本書，並通過我的社交媒體平台完成其他一些項目。

請記住，到目前為止，每個人，包括我的朋友和家人，都專注於最壞的情況

‘You’re wasting your time on Instagram’,

‘What if no one buys your book?’,

‘No one will be interested in your brand’,

‘You should really have a backup plan’

Do you know what my friend said?

‘Mate, that’s incredible! I can’t believe you didn’t tell me, I can see it being successful. ’

This man has been through the worst period of his life, and yet, he still encourages a friend to dream.

That’s a real friend.

“你在Instagram上浪費時間”，

“如果沒有人買你的書怎麼辦？”，

“沒有人會對你的品牌感興趣”，

“你真的應該有一個後備計劃”

你知道我朋友説了什麼嗎？

“夥計，這太不可思議了！我不敢相信你沒有告訴我，可以預見它會成功。“

這個人經歷了他一生中最糟糕的時期，但他仍然鼓勵朋友還踹夢想。

這才是真正的朋友。