你的初戀教會了你什麼人生經驗_風聞

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Anonymous

Today, exactly 3 months back I broke up with my girlfriend. I ended my one and half year relationship with her. The reason being that she cheated on me with some other guy.

So,How do I feel after 3 months?

BETTER.

It was my first true love and she was my life. She was my oxygen. But what happens when that oxygen supply is cut off?

You PANIC. Either you die or find desperate measures for your survival.

For me it was the biggest setback of my life. I cried, cursed, and abused her.

I felt devastated but most importantly LONELY.

“And then only when we have lost everything, are we free to do anything.”

3個月前的今天，我和女朋友分手了。我結束了與她一年半的關係。原因是她揹着我和別的男人在一起。

那麼，三個月後我感覺如何？

更好。

我的初戀曾是我的生命，是我的氧氣。但當氧氣供應被切斷時會發生什麼？

你這個膽小鬼。要麼你死去，要麼不顧一切的想辦法活下去。

對我來説，這是我一生中最大的挫折。我哭了，詛咒並辱罵她。

我感到很沮喪，但最重要的是，我很孤獨。

“只有當我們失去了一切，我們才能自由地做任何事情。”

First few days of the breakup are the toughest. For nearly 2 weeks I could not sleep. I hardly ate anything. I had no friends whom I could tell my condition. All I did was listen to sad songs and watch romantic movies. I literally saw “500 days of summer” 50 times. At that point those were the only things I could relate to. Resisting the urge to speak with my ex was the toughest thing. During the happy phase of our relationship, we used to speak everyday for nearly 8-9 hours. I used to stalk her facebook profile and check her “last seen” and “statuses” on whatsapp (which actually made me feel even worse). On Quora I used to read about breakup stories and life after breakup. Day and night, she was the only thing going around in my mind. I felt weak ,tired and frustated .I just wanted to get over her thoughts.

分手的頭幾天是最艱難的。將近兩個星期我都睡不着。幾乎什麼都沒吃。我沒有朋友可以告訴我的病情。我所做的就是聽悲傷的歌，看浪漫的電影。我真的看了50遍“《和莎莫的500天》”。在那一刻，這些是我唯一能聯繫到的事情。抵制與前任交談的衝動是最困難的事情。在我們關係的幸福階段，在我們戀愛的幸福時期，我們每天都要交談近8-9個小時。我曾經潛近她的facebook資料，查看她在whatsapp上的“最後一次見面”和“狀態”(這實際上讓我感覺更糟)。我曾經在Quora上讀過關於分手的故事和分手後的生活。日日夜夜，她都是我腦子裏唯一的念頭。我感到虛弱、疲倦和沮喪。我只想忘掉她。

And after 3 weeks my heart told my mind ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!

I told myself that I deserve better and maybe I am too good for her.

I started working on my skills. I wanted to be a better person. I bought a guitar and started learning it. Now after 3 months I can play 4-5 chords and I have developed a passion for it. I started reading novels and answers on quora. I also joined a gym.

I realized that the only way I can stop thinking about her is to keep myself busy. Trust me it helps.

Take this moment as a learning phase. Work on your personality and let the person regret her loss. WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH,THE TOUGH GETS GOING.

The most important thing that I have learned with my breakup is to never depend too much on a person. My mistake. I made her the center of my life.

三個星期後，我的心告訴我，適可而止了！

我告訴自己我應該得到更好的，也許我對她太好了。

我開始練習我的技能。我想成為一個更好的人。我買了一把吉他並開始學習。三個月後，我能彈4-5個和絃，我已經對它產生了熱情。我開始閲讀小説和quora上的答案。我還走進了一個健身房。

我意識到，我能停止想她的唯一辦法就是讓自己忙碌起來。相信我，這有幫助。

將這一刻作為學習階段。培養你的個性，讓對方為自己的損失感到後悔。當事情變得困難時，困難就開始了。

我從分手中學到的最重要的一點是永遠不要過分依賴一個人。我犯過的錯誤是我讓她成為我生活的中心。

In the last 3 months I have not contacted her, though, I still miss her, and looking at her photo with some other guy makes me cry. However, I have accepted the fact that she is not with me anymore. I do miss those long conversations and hugs. But then that’s life. You get things at the most unexpected times of your life.

Remember all this sacrifice will one day fetch you the result,so just be patient. LOVE IS THE BEST AND THE WORST THING A PERSON CAN EVER DO. That’s why its called “falling”.

In the end I am actually thankful to my ex for teaching me how to live on my own. I have become a much better person now and for me the whole perspective of life has changed. Self growth and personality development is all that I am seeking for now.

在過去的三個月裏，我沒有聯繫過她，但我仍然想念她，看着她和其他男人的照片，我不禁落淚。然而，我已經接受了一個事實，那就是她不再和我在一起了。我真的很懷念那些長時間的交談和擁抱。但那就是生活。你會在生命中最意想不到的時候得到東西。

記住，所有的犧牲總有一天會給你帶來結果，所以請耐心等待。愛是一個人能做的最好的也是最壞的事情。這就是為什麼它被稱為“墜落”。

最後，我真的很感謝我的前任教我如何獨立生活。我現在已經成為一個更好的人，對我來説，生活的整個視角都改變了。自我成長和人格發展是我現在所追求的一切。

Because One day she will meet a successful me and regret her loss.:)

NOTE: This is my first post on Quora. During my tough phase, Quora has helped me a lot to recover. I had promised myself that one day when I feel better, I, too, will write an answer. Hope you all like my sincere attempt. Sorry I have kept myself anonymous because I am actually not comfortable (I have friends here) :p

因為有一天，她會遇到一個成功的我，併為自己的失敗感到遺憾

注：這是我在Quora上的第一篇帖子。在我艱難的階段，Quora對我恢復提供了很多幫助。我曾向自己保證，有一天我感覺好了，我也會寫一個答案。希望你們都喜歡我這篇真誠的嘗試性的回答。對不起，我一直保持匿名，因為我實際上不舒服（我有朋友在逛Quora）

Amy Zhang

What life lessons have video games taught you?

This will sound ridiculous, but…

I thought Agar.io reflected life.

You start small, and usually, no one notices you much.

As time progresses, you keep working and you grow.

People start noticing you and some try to devour you for their own benefit. They see you as either predator or prey.

You can also help each other out by giving up a tiny bit of yourself (time, energy etc) in exchange for an alliance. (Friendship.)

Sometimes, things don’t go so well, and you’ll need to make huge sacrifices in order to survive. (Splitting to escape a predator.)

The bigger you get, the slower you move. (Responsibilities.)

When you get to the top be wary of “friends”

The bigger you are, the easier it becomes to kill newer players.

電子遊戲教會了你什麼生活經驗？

這聽起來很荒謬，但…

我想《Agar.io》反映了生活。

你從小做起，通常沒人注意到你。

隨着時間的推移，你不斷工作，不斷成長。

人們開始注意到你，有些人為了自己的利益而試圖吞噬你。他們將你視為捕食者或獵物。

你也可以通過放棄自己的一小部分(時間、精力等)來幫助對方，以換取聯盟。(友誼)。

有時候，事情進展得不太順利，為了生存，你需要做出巨大的犧牲。（為了躲避捕食者而分裂。）

你越大，動作越慢。（職責。）

當你到達頂峯時，要提防“朋友”

你越強大，就越容易殺死新玩家。