英文如何説教孩子(附中文翻譯)_風聞
张无忌-国家兴亡,吾辈之责。09-06 12:12
General Disapproval/Disappointment (普遍的不認可/失望):
* “I’m very disappointed in you.”
我對你感到很失望。(暗示信任已被破壞)
* “That’s not how we behave.”
這不是我們該有的行為。(強調預期的行為準則)
* “We don’t do that in this house.”
在我們家裏,不能做那種事。(設定明確的界限)
* “I expect better from you.”
我對你有更高的期望。(訴諸他們的潛力)
* “You know better than that.”
你明明知道不能那樣做。/ 你該懂得更懂事才對。(提醒他們之前學過的道理)
* “That’s not acceptable.”
這是不可接受的。(明確指出行為是錯誤的)
Focusing on the Action (關注行為本身):
* “That was a very poor choice.”
那是個非常糟糕的選擇。(強調做決定的一面)
* “Think before you act.”
做事之前要先思考。(鼓勵今後要多考慮)
* “What were you thinking?”
你當時是怎麼想的?(促使他們反思自己的理由)
* “That’s not a safe thing to do.”
那樣做不安全。(強調安全方面的擔憂)
* “That’s not a kind thing to do.”
那樣做不友善。(強調同理心和為他人着想)
Consequences/Expectations (後果/期望):
* “You need to clean that up.”
你需要把它清理乾淨。(要求他們為自己的行為負責)
* “Now you have to apologize.”
現在你必須道歉。(教導責任感和如何補救)
* “That’s going to cost you [privilege].”
你這樣做會失去[某項特權]。(將行為與後果聯繫起來)
* “You’re going to have to earn my trust back.”
你必須重新贏得我的信任。(強調行為對關係的影響)
* “We’ll talk about this later.”
我們晚點再談這個。(推遲更深入的討論)
Emphasis on Rules/Boundaries (強調規則/界限):
* “I told you not to [do that].”
我告訴過你不要[那樣做]。(重申之前講過的規則)
* “We have a rule about [that].”
關於[那件事],我們是有規定的。(提醒他們已建立的準則)
* “That breaks the rules.”
那違反了規定。(明確指出違規行為)
* “The answer is no.”
答案就是不行。(堅定地設定限制)
Expressions of Frustration (Use with Caution) (表達沮喪(慎用)):
* “How many times have I told you?”
我告訴過你多少次了?(可能被覺得是在嘮叨)
* “I’m at my wit’s end!”
我已經無計可施了!(表達家長的挫敗感,但可能讓孩子感到壓力過大)
* “I can’t believe you did that again.”
我真不敢相信你又那麼做了。(表示難以置信,但避免讓它聽起來像是指責)
Important Considerations (重要注意事項):
* Tone of Voice: A calm, firm tone is generally more effective than yelling.
語氣: 冷靜而堅定的語氣通常比大喊大叫更有效。
* Consistency: Use refrains consistently to reinforce expectations.
一致性: 始終如一地使用這些説法來強化期望。
* Explanation: Always explain *why* the behavior is wrong.
解釋: 一定要解釋*為什麼*那種行為是錯的。
* Age-Appropriateness: Adjust your language and expectations to the child’s developmental level.
適齡性: 根據孩子的發育水平調整你的語言和期望。
* Positive Reinforcement: Balance scolding with praise for good behavior.
正面強化: 在責罵的同時,也要平衡地對良好行為給予表揚。
* Avoid Shaming: Focus on the behavior, not the child’s character. Avoid name-calling or insults.
避免羞辱: 專注於行為本身,而不是孩子的品格。避免辱罵或侮辱。
* Listen: Give the child a chance to explain their side of the story.
傾聽: 給孩子一個機會解釋他們的説法。
* Follow Through: Be consistent with consequences.
堅持執行: 説到做到,堅持執行後果。
Example Scenario (示例場景):
Let’s say a child draws on the wall. Here’s how you might use a combination of refrains:
假設一個孩子在牆上畫畫。你可以這樣組合使用這些説法:
1. Initial Reaction (Calm but Firm): “Oh, no. We don’t draw on the walls.”
最初的反應(冷靜但堅定): “哦,不行。我們不能在牆上畫畫。”
2. Explanation: “Walls are not for drawing. Paper is for drawing.”
解釋: “牆不是用來畫畫的。紙才是用來畫畫的。”
3. Consequence: “Now, you need to help me clean this up.”
後果: “現在,你需要幫我把它清理乾淨。”
4. Reinforcement (After Cleaning): “Thank you for helping clean. Remember, walls are not for drawing.”
強化(清理後): “謝謝你幫忙清理。記住,牆不是用來畫畫的。”